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"Abusers use reactive abuse tactics to shift the blame for the abuse on the other person. Reactive abuse is one of the favourite moves of the abuser. They use this tactic to try and make the victim believe that they are the actual abuser because the victim reacted to the abuse that they have had to endure. The victim may have reacted by; shouting, screaming, snapping, throwing insults, or physically fighting back or lashing out. The abuser will try to convince the victim that they are overreacting because 'there is nothing' worth reacting about.

The truth is, the abuser would have pushed and pushed until the victim snapped. The victim would have had to endure and put up with, and copped more abuse, their emotions and feelings belittled over a period of time and then… boom! The reaction happened… it may have been a slow reaction or, may have come on suddenly and unexpectedly.

But it was likely that, for a long time, the victim would have been too scared to talk about their feelings, the hurt, confusion and could not have acknowledged that they were being abused. So, it is not surprising that this reaction happened. It would have been a build-up of many incidents until they could not contain it anymore. So, they snapped, screamed at the abuser, called them names, or even may have thrown a punch (although this is uncommon in victims of abuse because they know where it will end and it would not be pretty, the abuser may immediately fight back)

Perpetrators rely on this tactic, so, they can use it against the victim as ‘proof’ that the victim is the one who is the problem, mentally unstable or ill. They will jump on these actions and hold these reactions against the victim indefinitely and will use it against them whenever they think they can. They may come out with… ‘Back in 2003, (or whatever year it was) you did/said this and acted crazy…. You are the crazy one, you need help’. They may use this reaction against the victim if they go to the police or, they may even use it to try and file a protective order against the victim. They will never want to listen to why the outburst happened, they are more interested in that it did happen and that they can use it against the victim.


All manipulation is to unfairly and skilfully influence a situation and/or feeling to suit a particular purpose or advantage. This method of manipulation is particularly cruel, because it confuses not just the victim but also friends and family by claiming that they are the ones being abused. It also conditions the victims to accept the blame and the longer this blame-shifting goes on the longer, the victim will believe that they are to blame, and the abuse continues, victims believe that they are the violent and unstable ones. They become ashamed of themselves and ignore the abuse that is happening to them. Reactive abuse often has a knock-on effect on the victim’s mental health and physical health. The victim knows that they are good, kind, capable and loving but that has no bearing when they experience the guilt and shame that the abusers continue to condition them to feel. The abuser will get them to focus on their reactions to the abuse rather than the abuse itself.

If they eventually break up with the abuser, the victim stands no chance against the smear campaign that the perpetrator launches. It will lead people to say that there is mutual abuse within the relationship. In other words, both parties within the relationship are equally abusing each other. The fact is; the power and control involved in domestic violence would make it impossible for both partners to be abusive. If one person is controlling then the other person will be submissive, so mutual abuse is rare, but, it is a term well used as a way for people outside the relationship to understand the dynamics within the couple. It is hard, for an outsider to see the truth of who is the abuser and who is the victim"