Därför att sex bygger på att mannen förför kvinnan. Om du kräver att båda parter ska sitta ner och prata igenom det som ska hända så dödar du attraktionen. Framför allt kommer kvinnan inte att vilja ha sex med mannen.
Tvång är sexigt och upphetsande för kvinnor. Samtycke och jämställdhet är avtändande. Här är belägg för det,
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Being submissive in the bedroom is really fun...You get to be a little lady, to have somebody be macho and in charge of your s**t.
—Rihanna
I have struggled with two competing images of the opposite sex: oppressor, and dream date.
—J. Courtney Sullivan
I blame my recurring rape fantasy on the fact that I'm a feminist.
—Tracie Egan
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The majority of women have submission fantasies. From classic romance The Flame and The Flower to classic erotica The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty to Twilight BDSM fan fiction, submission themes are immensely popular in cross-cultural female erotica. The fact of the matter is that most heterosexual women are wired to find sexual submission arousing--and so are most female mammals.
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Though a woman's preference for physical sexual submission appears to be controlled by the unconscious, inaccessible subcortical part of her brain, this unconscious physical preference is complemented by an independent psychological preference for dominant men. [See footnote 1.]
Almost every quality of dominant males triggers arousal in the female brain: dominant scents, dominant gaits, deep voices, height, displays of wealth. Romance heroes are almost always high status alpha males—billionaires, barons, surgeons, sheriffs. Avon Books and Ellora's Cave feature no heroes who are kindergarten teachers, accountants, or plumbers. Even though there's been a trend away from the conspicuously rapey bodice-rippers of the seventies and eighties, women still want strong, dominant men.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...in-the-bedroom
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According to a study from Washington and Madrid, entitled Egalitarianism, Housework and Sexual Frequency in Marriage, couples where the men do all the “feminine” chores (laundry, cooking, cleaning) have sex 1.5 fewer times a month. It’s not just the quantity but also the quality that suffers, with women experiencing greater sexual satisfaction when men take on more traditional domestic roles.
http://www.prospectmagazine.co.uk/ku.../#.U6CSRK08V1w