Lena Wesström anmäld försvunnen (2018-05-15) hittad död (2018-05-19)

(NT/neurotypical är en teknisk term på den partnern utan AS, här en kvinna).

" A self-aware and motivated adult with AS can succeed in avoiding meltdowns by learning to avoid the triggers and recognize the early warning signs of stress and sensory overload."

Andra inte. Beroende på omständigheterna.

"Individuals with AS often suffer from anxiety, depression, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), sleep disorders, gastrointestinal (GI)
issues, or attention deficit disorder/attention deficit hyperactive disorder (ADD/ADHD). Often, therefore, an adult with AS might be diagnosed with one or more of the co-morbid conditions, but not the AS itself."

AS traits like impulsivity, melt-downs, rage, and withdrawal, which negatively impact the marriage.
It is vital to diagnose and treat depression, anxiety, OCD, or ADD/ADHD either with medications or/and with therapy."

"Well-known AS expert Dr. Tony Attwood estimates that up to 50% of adults with AS may currently be undiagnosed or misdiagnosed.

Why might there be such a high rate? Some features of AS are subtle, especially in adults, and the majority of clinicians are not trained to
understand or recognize the complex and varied manifestations of AS. "
" (..) or their partners may “diagnose” them through those means."

" Individuals with AS can be very good parents when it comes to concrete tasks such as helping the children with their homework, teaching them new skills, playing, and taking them on outdoor adventures. When it comes to meeting their children’s emotional needs, they
might need some coaching and cues from their NT partner."

Om partnerns tillkortakommanden i en AST-relation - och eget ansvar:

" It is tempting to want a romantic partner to shoulder the entire blame for relationship problems instead of examining one’s own role in the relationship.

However, it is more helpful to examine the traits of each spouse, and how those traits affect the interactions with the other partner. Helping the NT spouse understand that she, too, has had a significant effect on the quality of the marriage is crucial (....)"

" (..) many spouses also have undiagnosed or identified AS traits. Women with AS often get misdiagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, Schizoaffective Disorder, Attention Deficit Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, anxiety, or depression."

In many AS marriages the NT partner may be a super nurture, manager, and organizer who entered the relationship motivated by a desire to help and nurture the partner with AS."

"Some of the partners also say that when they were going through a vulnerable time in their lives, the strong, quiet, gentle, highly intelligent and loyal presence of the AS partner provided a sense of emotional security.!"

"Some NT partners also say that their AS partner behaved in a more doting and nurturing manner during the courtship period (perhaps following dating rules that they learnt from a movie, book or friend), but that once they were married, their AS partner stopped making these romantic gestures (Of course this can also be an issue in many NT marriages!).
Some NTs appear to have married their spouses thinking that they could change or fix their partners and help them grow. "

" Another aspect of self-exploration and self-awareness for the NT spouse is to rebuild her self-esteem and reintroduce activities and
interests into her life that she may have given up in order to shoulder majority of the responsibility for maintaining the household.

The NT spouse may also need to look for emotional support outside the marriage, so that she is not solely reliant on her husband for emotional fulfillment- as that may not always be a realistic expectation."

" A husband with AS can literally go days, weeks, or even months without spending
quality time with his NT partner, leaving the NT partner feeling abandoned, isolated and terribly lonely.
Research has shown that couples that play together stay together."

Såååå.. lets Team up and get together...
GC Forever?

11 s. Pdf från 2017
"Marriage with Asperger's Syndrome"
Cronicon, Tony Attwood