Tjejer är inte intresserade av sex! [/mod]

Iris is one of an increasing number of women in the prime of life and at the height of their fertility who have lost their sexual desire, according to medical experts and a growing body of research.

A cross-sectional study of 31,000 U.S. females 18 and older published in 2008 in Obstetrics and Gynecology magazine, about 43 percent of women reported sexual problems.

"I call it the 'going along syndrome,'" she said. "By 17 they are sexually active and go along with sex, even if it doesn't feel good or they don't have a libido. If they go along at 18 or 20, they continue after they are married."

I'm going in to year 3 of the relationship and sex stopped when we moved in together. I'm going to guess we've had sex maybe 6 times at the absolute most in 2015. It's never spontaneous, and always involves the same ritual of a back rub with the lights off before we start and there's always a "hurry up" after more than a couple of minutes. She's shared some of the reasons, which are mostly past trauma, and she's on a lot of medications. I went to a meeting with her therapist. Nothing much happened. Her therapist has been giving her books and suggestions, but she refuses to do any of it. She's started putting pressure on for more commitment (house, marriage, kids), but I'm the one with the financial means to get there. Sex came up and she suggested I sleep with other people, and then quickly followed by saying that if I did, she wouldn't sleep with me again. I said I didn't want that, and then said I was nervous about the direction we were headed with a house, marriage, and kids when there was no physical aspect of our relationship, and concerned about the level of commitment. That did not go over well at all, and resulted in slammed doors, crying, and threats. She declared that she was done trying to do anything about her aversion to having sex with me, and called me selfish and said this was "all about my dick."

I am a 50 year old man, good shape, good looking, not bald, not fat, not dirty and not lazy. I was engaged to another women 14 years ago when my current wife decided she wanted me. We had sex everyday everyway everywhere. It was great. She was pretty as hell, killer body and a fun person. Needless to say I left a stable good hearted women and really hurt her bad. We ended up getting Pregnant 6 months in. Then the change happened. We got married, no sex on the wedding night and not much after that. The last BJ I got was March of 2002, she told me see If I am nice you get nice things. Apparently I have never been nice since because she has not even touched my dick since then. Our son was born He immediately went into out bed I went to the spare room with the cat and have not been back since. I cannot complain about no sex or else I am Satin. We have had Sex 90 times since 2004 Yes I get pissed and I keep track of things. The last time I said anything was last January after not sex for two years. There was not talking about it she just said it made her hate me for the next three months. We have had sex 2 times in 2015, the last being Sept 9th. I am so pissed all the time I cannot take it and really If she would ask for sex I would say no. She does not kiss me, does not touch me at all and when I am blessed with sex it is nothing but laying there. I rank 6th in the house behind our son and her cats. Mind you I work 60 hours a week third shift I do the house work, lawn and my own laundry plus cook dinner while she works days.

My tale of woe is pretty typical – we’ve been married 11 years, and after the first kid (we have 2) the sex and any sort of intimacy diminished year by year. We’ve had sex twice in 15 months, at times going almost a year without. We haven’t kissed on the lips in a year, and we haven’t REALLY kissed in probably 10 years (We’re too old to make-out apparently). I’m 42 today, and my sex life is pretty much over until the kids are grown and I can leave.

THE SEX ISSUES:
Fast forward 8 or so years and things haven’t gotten better. Here is a rundown of our current sex life:
* Sex 2 to 3 times a month (on average).
* Occasionally, I may get a handjob (1x a month on average).
* No oral sex. The last blowjob was 4 years ago.
* My wife hasn’t cum in a few years. She doesn’t want to work with me on what it would take to make her cum.
* I cum way too early. This wasn’t always the case; rather, the problem started shortly after marriage. I can’t fully figure it out but have recently made some progress to the point where it’s longer than a minute (now 3 to 4 minutes, and getting better!).



My Wife’s Feelings:
* My wife doesn’t like making out.
* When we kiss, we can’t tongue kiss/French kiss/open-mouth kiss.
* She doesn’t like me touching her vagina (she says it’s because I bite my fingernails). This means no fingering, but she may be open to me rubbing her clit during sex.
* She hates the idea of me going down on her, full stop. She thinks it is gross.
* She won’t go down on me, and hates that I’d even ask (she says most women don’t do this after marriage, which I debate).
* She says she just doesn’t like sex as much as I do. When I asked her what her reaction would be if I told her that “We never have to have sex again, and I’ll just give you back massages” her reply was “90% of women would love that!”

When I asked her what her reaction would be if I told her that “We never have to have sex again, and I’ll just give you back massages” her reply was “90% of women would love that!”