Dating Swedish guys and/or New Immigrants

I’ve lived in Sweden for some time now and am not having much luck in the dating scene. I think Swedish guys just see me as ‘a bit of fun’ due to my foreign/ethnic background. Also seems quite a few are kind of ‘incel’. I haven’t met so many other immigrant guys that have the qualities I usually look for in a guy. What should I do?

Edit: I’m not gay. I’m a straight 20-something year old woman. Based in Stockholm.

You are probably fugly. Go out on tinder and just type: "I fuck on the first date". That might help you a bit. Good luck and welcome to this shithole of a country.

Welcome to flashback, you will quickly notice that a lot of "incels" hang out here, and they dont really like immigrants. Have that in mind when reading threads / getting replies.

Where are you located? Stockholm has always been the hardest dating scene for people either from abroad or from other places in Sweden. As they are very private, and honestly, unfriendly as fuck. GBG is a bit more modern, aswell as Malmö. Smaller cities = more swedes and if you are obviously an immigrant (see black, chinese, etc) you might face some difficulties.

I would try dating apps or getting in a "group" of some kind. As meeting "people out in the city and fall in love" is a very hard thing to do in Sweden. Most of those relationships are short, and not very lasting.

I assume you are gay. Try GrindR

Age and education? Are you ugly or fat? Are your standards really high or do you seem desperate?

I’m in my 20s. Educated to Master’s level. Currently doing PhD here. I’m not ugly. I guess you might perceive me as fat, although I’m quite curvy/hourglass. I’m also relatively tall.
Do you think maybe this is a problem and I’m just too fat for Sweden?

I think my standards are reasonable. I may seem desperate to some guys and maybe be too ‘on’. It’s hard to play.

The problem isn’t getting the first/second date or getting matches. I get literally 100s of matches on these apps and have gone on quite a few dates. But the guys are either weird or after while say they feel ‘no spark/chemistry’.

maybe they cant categorize you

Do you believe in the almighty powers of God?

I know you don't. But it would help you immensely to trust in the Lord. He will make it happen. But rest assured, if you continue to walk on this path, in darkness, you will never be truly fulfilled.

Trust in the Lord and I guarantee, he will guide you and your man to each other.

That IS the only way. You say that the men "don't feel the spark, chemistry". They feel how LOST you are inside, that you're walking in the darkness. They may not know that's what it is if they're non believers, but that's indeed what it is. When they look into your eyes they see something is missing

On a final note, you are not "too fat for Sweden". Be proud

Dating men instead of puppies, you will get what you need.

Boys in Sweden cant handle an educated good looking woman.

You may be too fat for Sweden. There are men from other cultures who appreciate and value larger women. Perhaps that could be an option?