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"If we could look inside the heads of people with BPD to see the way they think, we’d find out they live in a world of extremes.

To them, people and situations are all good or all bad, with nothing in between. They don’t just
admire or respect someone—they elevate that person to an impossible standard and then knock him down when he inevitably disappoints them."

" People with BPD often perceive other people as either the wicked witch or fairy godmother, a saint or a demon. When you seem to be meeting theirneeds, they cast you in the role of superhero. But when they perceive thatyou’ve failed them, you become the villain."

" People with BPD are fully convinced their skewed feelings and beliefs—bethey positive or negative—are unquestionably true."

" Some people with BPD have an amazing ability to read others and uncover their triggers and vulnerabilities. One clinician jokingly called people with BPD“psychic.”

High functioning non visible BP

" Most people find it hard to understand BPD behavior because they assume thatpeople with BPD think and feel the way they do. It’s an understandable mistake.
High-functioning borderlines can act quite normal when their BPD behaviors arenot being triggered. They don’t look or sound like they have a disorder."

" Appears normal, even charismatic, to outsiders but exhibits BP traits behind closed doors. May have a career and be successful."

" Some people with BPD become extremely successful at what they do.
They become known for their achievements at work, in their community, or at home. But they often feel like actors reciting their lines. When the audience goes home, they cease to exist."

" Some people with BPD are competent and in control in some situations. För example, many perform very well at work and are high achievers. Many are very intelligent, creative, and artistic. This can be very confusing for family members
who don’t understand why the person can act so self-assured in one situation and fall apart in another."

" High functioning, invisible borderlines act perfectly normal much of the time—at least to people outside the family.

They hold jobs and appear tohave no trouble with the usual activities of daily living, which makes them “high functioning.”

They usually show their other side only to people theyknow very well. That’s why family members say these people bring to mind Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.
They cope with their pain by acting out, projecting it onto someone else—for example, by raging, blaming, criticizing, making accusations, becoming physically violent, and engaging in verbal abuse. "

" Friends and family members who don’t know the borderline very well may not believe stories of rage and verbal abuse."

" Some people with BPD may play the role of victim because it draws sympathetic attention.
Some people with BPD may feel being the victim supplies an identity.
The victim role gives people with BPD the illusion that they are not responsible for their own actions."

" Another role common among people with BPD is that of helper or caretaker. This more positive role may help provide them with anidentity, heighten feelings of control, and lessen feelings of emptiness."

" People with BPD may also try to fill the emptiness and create an identity for themselves through impulsive behaviors such as bingeing and purging, indiscriminate sexual activity, shoplifting, compulsive shopping, drinking, or substance abuse."

"Self-mutilation, without suicidal intent, is another BPD behavior that isvery difficult for family members to understand.
(Cutting, burning, breaking bones, head banging needle poking, skin scratching, pulling out hairs, ripping off scabs)

" Self-injury is a coping mechanism that BPs use to release or manage över whelming emotional pain. "

Stop walking on eggshells : taking your life back when someone you care about has borderline personality disorder / Paul T. Mason and Randi Kreger