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Moment22x22
Dina scenario är rent hittepå. Trams och inte värt att tas seriöst.
1) Vad menar du? Här är några exempel på vad jag talar om,
Finally Saw No Hope
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I tried everything. I tried gifts, cards, flowers, chocolates, all the cliches. I wrote letters. I wrote poems. I made playlists of her favorite songs. We went away to romantic resorts. I begged. I cried. I pleaded.
Nothing worked.
My wife (now my ex) abandoned her sex life around 2002. Our children grew up and moved out to start their own lives. And then she moved into one of their bedrooms never to return,
On very rare occasions, she would return to our bed but nothing happened unless I first gave her an hour long back rub and massage. Then and only then would she consent to letting me go down on her.
But as soon as she came, she rolled out of bed and went back to her bedroom. I was nothing more than a pair of hands and a tongue.
One time she consented to give me a handjob and then promptly fell asleep with my penis in her hand. Just like that. Couple of half-hearted strokes and then snoring.
I tried everything. We would talk for hours on end about it and she agreed to try harder. But less than a week later, everything ground to a halt all over again. Lather, rinse, repeat.
Once, she suggested we reserve Wednesday nights for date night. On the second Wednesday, she asked for a rain check and that was the permanent end of date night.
I filed for divorce in April 2018 and she immediately went on the attack. She even poisoned our children’s minds against me. They’re gone along with my grandchildren.
The divorce was finalized in May of this year. It’s all over after 35 years. Like it happened to someone else.
Side note: I spent 7 months in the hospital with some health issues from August 2018 to March 2019. She never visited. Neither did the children. Not once. My family is completely gone.
I tried everything. I’m a kind and gentle soul who tries to put others needs before mine. I provided everything for them ... house, cars, clothes, food, college educations, entertainment, vacations, and so on. Hundreds of thousands of dollars (if not more) over the years.
I don’t understand what’s happened. I’m so incredibly lonely. My heart is broken and I can’t seem to repair it. My dead bedroom turned into a marriage grave.
Ladies, please don’t crush your husband’s soul like this. We hurt too. Way more than we let on.
Not Giving Up
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I’ve been married nearly 20 years and I have 2 wonderful kids. Sex used to be great. However, I’m now in a sexless marriage. I’ve studied the female orgasm and when we had sex I would make sure she would orgasm and I always thought that would be enough. Plus my wife doesn’t work, and my kids are usually in school. The way I see it my wife has a good, fairly easy, affluent life. But NO sex for at least the past year. I am a very devout Christian and despise the idea of divorce but it seems like a very nasty place to be in. I pay all the bills and deal with all the stress, and I’m actually pretty nice and fit and run 5 miles every day. But the wife won’t put out. No sex for the rest of my life? Really? And it’s always the guy’s fault right? We aren’t sensitive enough, we don’t communicate enough, we need to learn a love language.... really? I buy her flowers, we rent an expensive ski condo every year and I spend every holiday with her family.... what do you do?
Dry spell for a year+ and she's asking for a vasectomy
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Me: 37MHL. Her 35FLL. Married six years, but known each other for nine. Two kids. Dead bedroom for about 4 years, and haven't had sex in over a year.
We have a happy family otherwise. Our kids love us and we love them. We both have great jobs. We have a smooth running household, and some really good friends. We do lots together but when it comes to sex i don't understand what happened.
It started with the rejections. She had a sudden onset headache. Suddenly nauseous. Suddenly stomach ache. Things like that. And these rejections started to gradually include not being in the mood, being too exhausted, and eventually, "needing to be woo'd" This is where it's been for a year. The reason she says, is i need to push her buttons and make her feel sexy and special. I asked her what it was i used to do for her ie what's changed and she says i have to figure that out.
^ det här är din average sexköpare.
2) Vad tycker att de här männen ska göra?
a) De har jobb och familjer så de är inte incels.
b) De köper blommor, betalar för resor, och försöker vara snälla. Så de behandlar inte kvinnorna dåligt.
c) De accepterar att leva utan sex i flera år. Så de har inte höga krav.
3) Ja jag vet att det är lol att de trodde att de skulle få sex. Men det är elakt att vägra ställa upp.
