Här är en kvinna som beskriver hur sex funkar för kvinnor,
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I am a LL woman. I could go almost the rest of my life without having sex and be completely okay with that. My partner on the other hand is HL and I know that his ideal is having sex once a day or once every other day. To clarify, we have been together for over a year and my partner has absolutely no idea that I am LL and we are not in a DB. I make sure that his needs are taken care of and even if we don't have full sex every day, I do at least make sure he gets release and I take part in that most of the time. But my problem is that the longer we continue on, the more I just feel the urge to "slack off" and I can already feel myself slipping when it comes to maintaining the momentum.
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Most of the time it's just oral so it is mostly about enjoyment from having served him. But when we do go all the way, I do get enjoyment out of it just for the sake of it. But even then, it is still mostly for him. I just don't need it even though I like it if that makes any sense
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Not really "don't like". It just feels like any other chore that I do to maintain our relationship. It's equivalent to cleaning the apartment, cooking dinner, or doing laundry. Obviously that is an oversimplification because I do get a bit more enjoyment out of it than laundry but that's generally what it feels like to me. It just feels like another thing I "have to get done". So it can sometimes be hard to motivate myself to do it.
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See I think that's why I have such a hard time wrapping my head around it, is because the word that everyone uses for sex is fulfilling or not fulfilling. But for me it's like that part that needs to be fulfilled is just missing.
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Yes, just not sexually aroused. I feel sexually empowered which I enjoy, and I enjoy pleasing my bf, but I just don't really get any arousal out of it if that makes any sense.
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And to be honest, I'm probably not even LL but no libido. Like I really could do without it for the rest of my life. It's not something that I've really ever vocalized or know anyone like so, it's not so much that I want my situation to change, but more so I'd like to hear the strategies that other similar people have employed to handle it because I really do enjoy making my boyfriend happy and fulfilled through sex I'd say 75% of the time even if I don't really have a need for it. It's just that other 25% where something in my head is just like "You could make him just as happy cleaning up the apartment."
I just see that most of these dead bedrooms are a slow decline and I want to start my combating of that before it even starts because I have to wonder if there aren't more situations like mine where they just pretend to have an interest in sex at first and then the mask slowly drops over time.
1) Ni kan se att hon vill tillfredsställa sin man sexuellt och vill tycka om sex men det funkar inte för henne. Hon känner inget behov av sex och blir inte upphetsad av att ha sex det är lika spännande som städning, tvätt, och matlagning för henne.
2) En del kvinnor gillar sex lite mer än det här, de flesta gillar det mycket mindre, men det här är en bra beskrivning av
average.
3) Så om sex är lika roligt som städning för kvinnor kan ni se varför ni inte får ligga?