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According to new research published yesterday in Germany, more women are using money as overriding criteria for choosing their partners.

With women getting better jobs, they are looking for their men to have a spending power to match, said the study.

The Cologne-based Institute for the German Economy claimed women quizzed in a survey said they wanted to avoid stress and confrontation over big differences in earnings.

In a controversial study published in January by London School of Economics Professor Dr Catherine Hakim, more women were said to prefer to marry a man earning more than they do.

According to the poll, 64 per cent said they aspire to find a husband bringing home more money. None wanted to marry a man who earned less.

Dr Hakim claimed more women were choosing to ‘marry up’ by picking wealthy men for their spouse than in the 1940s.

After decades of gender equality campaigning many women now find it hard to admit that they want to be a housewife more than they want a successful career of their own, she said.

In another recent YouGov survey, 62 per cent of women said their husbands earned more than them. Only 16 per cent earned more than their husbands while 18 per cent earned the same.

The researchers at Southampton Solent University showed more than 150 women a series of online dating profiles, before asking them which men they would like to date and which seemed marriage material.

The fictitious profiles contained information about the men’s earning potential and how dominant they were. Half the women also looked at words related to financial hardship.

The British Psychological Society’s annual conference heard those primed to think of recession then went on to choose more reliable, gentler sorts.
However, when told to assess the men as husband material, money was all important.

Instead, those primed to think of economic hardship said they’d rather be entertained by a more reliable sorts who shy away from taking command, don’t like to take risks and are generally happy to do what they are told.

Asked if these men might be described as boring, Dr Julal said: ‘He wouldn’t necessarily be boring. He might be very interesting but just comply with what the woman says.’

His fear of being in command means that he is also unlikely to be an extremely high earner.

Researcher Dr Fay Julal said: ‘It is telling us that all men may be attractive at some time, given different economic settings.

‘But the women rated the men who had high earning potential as having the best marriage appeal. We could understand it was once important to be financially supported but nowadays women are in the labour force.

It is important to note that the cluster analysis identified a two group solution, suggesting that there is a dichotomy of highly sexual versus less sexual women. As such, this study provides important insights into how highly sexual women are distinctly different from less sexual women.

Specifically, highly sexual women express sexual agency in their conceptualization of their sexuality (e.g., I have a huge appetite for sex), have high levels of confidence regarding their own sexuality (e.g., I think I am better at sex than most women, I am confident about my sexual ability), and are not dependent upon a partner for sexual arousal

The behavioural outcome measures provide additional evidence regarding the significant differences between highly sexual and less sexual women. Highly sexual women began having sexual intercourse at younger ages, had higher numbers of both committed and casual sex partners, and engaged in more frequent sexual activity.

having sexual intercourse at younger ages, had higher numbers of both committed and casual sex partners, and engaged in more frequent sexual activity.

"Over half the men in their national sample reported thinking about sex every day, whereas only one fifth of the women reported thinking about sex that often."

"He found that “husbands continued to prefer intercourse more frequently than wives” (p. 274). In fact, wives consistently reported that they were quite satisfied with the amount of sex they had in their marriages, but men on average wished for about a 50% increase."

"In a large Australian sample, McCabe (1987) found that the category of people who were in a committed relationship, who wanted to have sex, but who were not having sex, consisted almost entirely of men. For example, among 25-year-olds, 28% of men but only 2% of women were in this category of 'reluctant virgins.'"

"Among 20-year-olds who had been dating for about 2 years, Davies, Katz, and Jackson (1999) found no mean gender difference in self-reported sexual desire, which does suggest that there may be a phase of equal desire. Still, other evidence for that conclusion remains sparse, and the weight of evidence shows unmistakably that at most points in relationships men want more sex than women."

"Men and women agreed very closely that vaginal and anal intercourse constituted sex and that kissing did not, but they disagreed on the intermediate activities such as fellatio, cunnilingus, and manual stimulation of a partner’s genitals. Men were consistently more likely to rate those activities as sex than women."

"Spanier and Margolis found that 26% of the unfaithful husbands had had more than three extramarital partners, as compared to only 5% of the unfaithful wives. Conversely, wives outnumbered husbands in the category of having only one extramarital partner (64% vs. 43%)."

"In a sample of several hundred respondents, far more gay White men (43%) than White lesbians (0%) reported having had over 500 sex partners."

"Oliver and Hyde (1993) found that masturbation was the largest difference of all the variables they examined, with men nearly a full standard deviation higher than women, averaged across 26 different findings."

"...apparently most priests do engage in masturbation (e.g., Sipe, 1995, reported extensive interviews with many priests; Murphy, 1992, reported similar conclusions from survey data)"

"Arafat and Cotton’s (1974) finding that more males (13%) than females (10%) reported feeling guilty after masturbation. By the same token, more males than females said they regarded their masturbatory activities as perverse (5% vs. 1%). Thus, if anything, guilt weighs more heavily on men."

"They found that some women showed substantial fluctuations in total outlet. Thus, a woman might enjoy a full and active sex life for a period, then lose her partner and have no sexual activity at all for some time, and then resume active sex with a new partner. Kinsey et al. (1953) observed that such discontinuities were almost never found among men. More recently, Leiblum and Rosen (1988) confirmed that in-depth histories indicated that many women seem to adapt easily to a complete absence of sexual activity during long periods of involuntary abstinence, unlike men."

"Reasons for not having sex were the explicit focus of a study by Leigh (1989). Among men, fear of rejection was the main reason given for avoiding sex. Women, however, reported that they avoided sex because a lack of interest and enjoyment. The significantly greater allusion by women than men to a lack of sexual interest and enjoyment fits the view that women have a weaker sex drive, as Leigh (1989) herself acknowledged."

"...seven times as many husbands as wives were able to claim that they had never turned down their spouse’s request for sex."

"More male clergy (62%) than female clergy (49%) reported having been sexually active since they took their vows of celibacy. Among the sexually active, the men had had more partners than the women. Thus, 24% of the sexually active men, but hardly any of the sexually active women (3%) reported having had more than five partners since taking their vows."

"Men rated their girlfriends’ vaginas more favorably than the women rated their boyfriends’ penises. Thus, men rated both their own and their partners’ sex organs more favorably than women rated them."

"A nonclinical sample of never married college students by Carroll, Volk, and Hyde (1985) provided converging evidence. Far more women (19%) than men (2%) claimed that they never felt that they wanted or needed sex. Moreover, even when sexual tension or desire was felt, it was apparently less intense among the women. Most of the men (80%) but only 25% of the women said they preferred to have sex as a way of releasing sexual tension when they did feel it. Instead, women said they preferred to engage in vigorous physical activity (50%) or even just watch television (20%)"

"Janus and Janus (1993) found that men were slightly more eager than women to report wanting to have a baby regardless of whether they married or remained single, and also more likely than women to agree that parenthood is the highest human attainment."

"Unfaithful men far outnumbered women in the category of one night stands (29% vs. 5%), whereas unfaithful women outnumbered men in the category of long-term love relationships (41% vs. 11%)"

"Over half the men in their national sample reported thinking about sex every day, whereas only one fifth of the women reported thinking about sex that often."

26% of the unfaithful husbands had had more than three extramarital partners, as compared to only 5% of the unfaithful wives.

"In a sample of several hundred respondents, far more gay White men (43%) than White lesbians (0%) reported having had over 500 sex partners."

Women, however, reported that they avoided sex because a lack of interest and enjoyment.

"...seven times as many husbands as wives were able to claim that they had never turned down their spouse’s request for sex."

Far more women (19%) than men (2%) claimed that they never felt that they wanted or needed sex.

Most of the men (80%) but only 25% of the women said they preferred to have sex as a way of releasing sexual tension when they did feel it. Instead, women said they preferred to engage in vigorous physical activity (50%) or even just watch television (20%)"