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De arbetar 90 % med att försöka övertyga kvinnan att inte gå tillbaka till mannen som precis slog och/eller våldtog henne. Nämn ett annat brott där myndigheterna måste övertyga "offret" att inte försöka bli drabbad igen. Det är ett svart hål att försöka hjälpa dem, resurser kan läggas på viktigare saker.
Här är en studie som även innehåller några citat från kvinnor i "abusive relationships",
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TABLE 1. Quotes Related to Coding Categories for Women Who Stayed With No Ambivalence (n = 106)
Selected quotations
“He is sexy.”
“We enjoy being with each other and provide support for one another.”
“He makes me feel very safe and comfortable, and I am always happy around him.”
“I am still with my boyfriend because he is my best friend.”
“We plan to get married and have a life together.”
“I don’t know what I would do without him.”
“We’ve been together for a long time, it’s just what I am used to.”
“We are the type of couple that tends to fight a lot but not to the point of violence.”
“Even though, we disagree and get annoyed with each other sometimes, it’s not a
big deal, because everyone does that.”
“I decided to remain w/my boyfriend b/c even though we may argue & he may hurt
my feelings we are always able to talk about it & fix our issues & differences.
Furthermore when I look @ our relationship in a big picture I’m very happy &
satisfied.”
Selected quotations
“He is sexy.”
“We enjoy being with each other and provide support for one another.”
“He makes me feel very safe and comfortable, and I am always happy around him.”
“I am still with my boyfriend because he is my best friend.”
“We plan to get married and have a life together.”
“I don’t know what I would do without him.”
“We’ve been together for a long time, it’s just what I am used to.”
“We are the type of couple that tends to fight a lot but not to the point of violence.”
“Even though, we disagree and get annoyed with each other sometimes, it’s not a
big deal, because everyone does that.”
“I decided to remain w/my boyfriend b/c even though we may argue & he may hurt
my feelings we are always able to talk about it & fix our issues & differences.
Furthermore when I look @ our relationship in a big picture I’m very happy &
satisfied.”
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Group 1: Women Who Stayed With No Ambivalence
(n = 106; 86%)
Approximately 43% mentioned positive boyfriend quali-
ties, such as “He is loving, funny, and handsome” and “He
is sexy” (see Table 1 for sample quotes). Moreover, 64% de-
scribed in their written responses positive relational qualities
such as “We enjoy being with each other and provide support”
and “We have a lot of past to just throw away,” whereas 53%
mentioned relational love (eg, “I love,” “He loves,” or “We
love”). Further, 38% described some other positive emotions
related to their partners, such as “I really care about him” or
“He makes me very happy and satisfied.”
(n = 106; 86%)
Approximately 43% mentioned positive boyfriend quali-
ties, such as “He is loving, funny, and handsome” and “He
is sexy” (see Table 1 for sample quotes). Moreover, 64% de-
scribed in their written responses positive relational qualities
such as “We enjoy being with each other and provide support”
and “We have a lot of past to just throw away,” whereas 53%
mentioned relational love (eg, “I love,” “He loves,” or “We
love”). Further, 38% described some other positive emotions
related to their partners, such as “I really care about him” or
“He makes me very happy and satisfied.”
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TABLE 2. Quotes Related to Coding Categories for Women Who Stayed With Ambivalence (n = 6)
“We respect each other and have much in common.”
“We are different people, have different interest, and different friends.”
“I am still with my partner because I have been with him for three years and
I’ve become comfortable in the relationship.”
“I love him more than I’ve ever loved anyone.”
“I know I’d never find someone else who treats me like he does.”
“Sadly, things aren’t going too well and I could see us breaking up sometime
in the near future. Long distance relationships are hard.”
“We tend to fight a lot but I do believe he loves me.”
“I love him, and I know that, and we both say things we don’t mean when
we’re pissed off, but we always seem to figure it out in the end.”
“We respect each other and have much in common.”
“We are different people, have different interest, and different friends.”
“I am still with my partner because I have been with him for three years and
I’ve become comfortable in the relationship.”
“I love him more than I’ve ever loved anyone.”
“I know I’d never find someone else who treats me like he does.”
“Sadly, things aren’t going too well and I could see us breaking up sometime
in the near future. Long distance relationships are hard.”
“We tend to fight a lot but I do believe he loves me.”
“I love him, and I know that, and we both say things we don’t mean when
we’re pissed off, but we always seem to figure it out in the end.”