Ive been together with my boyfriend (33) for 3 years almost. Before he has lied to me about smoking weed and once i saw a message on his phone from his ex "i understand you cant talk now cause she is there" and he told me he had deleted their previous conversations. We almost broke up. Ive had a bad gut feeling a lot with this guy. Half a year ago we moved in together. And I'm pregnant with our baby. He has been doubting the baby is his even though I'm very loyal and honest and faithful. He also told me I shouldn't have male friends cause he haven't had any female friend without wanting to fuck them. I obliged. Once I saw him send kissing 😘 smileys to his cousins girlfriend and I told him this can be perceived as flirty and I didn't like it.
He was just on a conference trip abroad for four days. He was telling me he was missing me and so on. And many evenings he told me they had late technical meetings at 22 pm.
I talked about boundaries and trust with him when he came home. He then told me he made four really close female friends on the conference that he wanted to have daily contact with.
Later I asked to see his phone and said I had a bad gut feeling. He said no it was private and so on. Eventually he allowed me. I checked social media 4 min. Saw that instead of the technical meeting he was texting a girl "can I join you in the sauna before you go to sleep?" And another girl he texted a lot like "what do you do on your free time" "I would love to come and visit you in Greece" "I would get along great with your mom then" "I'm going to miss you 😘😘😘"
He tells me this was pure friendship and that he didn't do anything. He then told me one of them did tell him she hasnt get laid in a long time and was into guys like him and he was asking who on the conference she could consider to fuck and she was a swinger which he found interesting and asked a lot of questions about.. (so not pure friendly from my perspective) He gaslighted me and then he says it's just small things and I overreact..
I feel distrust and so sad. I would never and why does he do this if he loves me? Is he cheating? Should I believe there is more I don't know?
He was just on a conference trip abroad for four days. He was telling me he was missing me and so on. And many evenings he told me they had late technical meetings at 22 pm.
I talked about boundaries and trust with him when he came home. He then told me he made four really close female friends on the conference that he wanted to have daily contact with.
Later I asked to see his phone and said I had a bad gut feeling. He said no it was private and so on. Eventually he allowed me. I checked social media 4 min. Saw that instead of the technical meeting he was texting a girl "can I join you in the sauna before you go to sleep?" And another girl he texted a lot like "what do you do on your free time" "I would love to come and visit you in Greece" "I would get along great with your mom then" "I'm going to miss you 😘😘😘"
He tells me this was pure friendship and that he didn't do anything. He then told me one of them did tell him she hasnt get laid in a long time and was into guys like him and he was asking who on the conference she could consider to fuck and she was a swinger which he found interesting and asked a lot of questions about.. (so not pure friendly from my perspective) He gaslighted me and then he says it's just small things and I overreact..
I feel distrust and so sad. I would never and why does he do this if he loves me? Is he cheating? Should I believe there is more I don't know?
