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CherryJul
Nej det är som Mia säger det handlar om hur kvinnan upplever det, det som inte vill erkänna är att det är skillnad på dominant sex och våldtäckt.

1) Här är 3 exempel på vad jag talar om,
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Been with my husband for 5 and a half years and he has a small penis. Also, he is VERY boring in bed! He has a big belly that just smacks me and its gross! He used to be thin and look hot at least. That helped the smallness. And he was new to me still.
He got fat when I was preg with our first son. He stayed that way. Then he got really boring all around after our first 2 years. There started to be problems then bc I was so bored and felt like so much was missing! So this I had met this guy. I wasnt trying to look for anyone but I met this guy and he was interesting and good looking. So you know...
I was with that guy for almost a year and we had some of the BEST sex I could ever imagin!!!!!! It was so perfect!!!!!!!!!! I had ofcoarse left my husband and eventually moved in with this guy. But it didnt work out and we hate eachother now! Thats a long story!
Well I got back together with my husband and I love him so much! I mean he couldnt be better to me than he is! He forgave me for leaving him. He's been really nice to me since but still a VERY boring person and lover!!!!!! His belly flops and hes so small! Its hard for him to keep it up now! He was diagnosed with anhedonia which is a type of depression that keeps him from feeling excited or really happy emotions. We only have sex when he needs to empty his load! And lately not even then bc I'm tired of pretending to enjoy it!
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Biggest problem, so now I've started thinking about my ex all the time! Well the perfect sex we had anyway! I think about it so much that I feel like a perv! Me and him still hate eachother but I cant forget that part! I think about other guys. I feel so bad about it! I've just started thinking about sex so much!!!!!! Its literally been over a year since I had an Orgasim and it was with the ex. I've thought about cheating and I DONT want to! I mean, I dont want to want to!
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Female_Sexual_Issues/advice/11448086-size-issues-and-boring
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Anyone ever felt like your sex life has become dull and predictable? What do you do? I have talked to DH about it and tried to spice it up, but my efforts never create lasting changes. He doesn't seem to mind the same old same old, but if you backed him into a corner (no pun intended), I think he would admit that it's better when we try harder. But he doesn't find the energy or time to raise the temperature. I don't want to be in charge of everything in the bedroom. and I'm tired of always bringing this up. I'm frustrated. Sex is pretty much once a week, on the weekend, in the bedroom, no build up, etc. Frankly, once a week is more often than I'm interested, given how things are. But I could be interested far more often if it were more fun and exciting. I'm starting to think that husbands who complain that their wives aren't interested in sex may need to ask themselves if there's anything there for the wife to be interested in. And I'm wondering if I should just resign myself to a largely sexless marriage.
Anyone else ever felt this way?
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/102607.page
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Hello everybody, I am trying to get some advice, I don't know if I should see a sexologist/therapist/doctor, I just know that I am unhappy. Making a long story short, I am a 35-year-old woman, got married early (age 24) but my marriage didn't last, my first husband abused me emotionally and physically and we got divorced. However, sex with him was always very pleasant, he was a good lover and he was very passionate. After him, I didn't manage to be in a stable relationship for a few years, but sex was good in general with the people I dated. At age 32 I met my second husband : a very loving, commited, serious and respectful man. Everything was perfect about him but sex. He is 4 years younger than me and didn't have much sexual experience before meeting me, he had only had one girlfriend and sex was only occassional among them, he tells me. At the beginning, I thought that I could teach him to make me enjoy, I started telling him what I liked, asking him what he liked and encouraging him to open up with me sexually. But I wasn't very successful. With time sex became very boring to me, and my body responded by not lubricating at all at the time of penetration, so today we have to use lubricants in order to have intercourse. We have been married for three years now and we have a one-year-old kid. Our sexual life is limited to almost daily intercourse in which after one or two kisses we reach for the lub, he penetrates me, he thrusts for less than a minute, he comes and he falls asleep. Needless to say I don't feel anything. So I have turned to porn. In the mornings, after he leaves for work, I lay in bed and watch porn and masturbate. Those are the only times in which I have orgasms. I am just wondering if living a life like this is normal. I am afraid this can go on forever, we can spend the rest of our lives like this, and I would never again enjoy sex like I used to in the past.
http://www.psychforums.com/sexual-dysfunctions/topic90875.html
tror ni att de här kvinnorna skulle föredra a) riktig våldtäkt b) samtyckande sex med sina män?
De här kvinnorna är typiska för hur kvinnor känner inför sina beta-män. Då kan ni säkert förstå varför de flesta kvinnor skulle njuta av att bli våldtagna av en dominant man även om han inte är deras typ.
2) För kvinnor är våldtäkt bara en form av dominans-sex.