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1) Man måste ta ansvar för sin egen situation. Man kan inte sitta och vänta på att mannen ska börja laga mat, passa barnen, ge tid så att man kan gå och träna.
2) Um, för att det kan sammanfattas i typ 4 meningar?
a) amma.
b) lev på kvarg och grönsaker (easy mode: 1200 kalorier, normal: 1000 kalorier, hard: 800 kalorier.)
c) lyft hantlar varje dag när du får 1 minut över.
d) bär tunga matkassar från affären samtidigt som du har barnet i en sele.
2) Um, för att det kan sammanfattas i typ 4 meningar?
a) amma.
b) lev på kvarg och grönsaker (easy mode: 1200 kalorier, normal: 1000 kalorier, hard: 800 kalorier.)
c) lyft hantlar varje dag när du får 1 minut över.
d) bär tunga matkassar från affären samtidigt som du har barnet i en sele.
Ja, det kanske kan sammanfattas i fyra meningar, men ändå finns det oändligt med efterfrågan på inspirationslitteratur för kost och träning. Men visst, de flesta böcker blir aldrig utgivna, så man ska ju inte ge sig in i det getingboet om man inte är grundligt motiverad
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Alltså, för det första så är jag i bra fysisk form. För det andra så fattar jag grejen med att det är viktigt med lust i en relation och att det kan vara ett verkligt problem för såväl kvinna som man om ens sambo går upp mycket i vikt. Det är tråkigt, men det är sant. Jag lägger mig dock inte i vad som försiggår i andras relationer, jag har nog med mitt på det sättet. Och jag tror på att hantera sådant genom ärlig kommunikation mellan de två parter som lever med varandra...
Men visst, jag kan inte säga att du har fel. Många kvinnor tror att de är älskade för den de är i sin relation bara för att vakna upp och lukta på kaffet när maken har stuckit med en yngre förmåga... Men du förenklar faktiskt också en hel del, Babianen. Allt i dina inlägg handlar om vikt och träning, i verkligheten är det inte allt som spelar roll i en relation. Man kan inte kontrollera sin make eller försäkra sig om kärlek i livet för att man praktiserar kalori-restriktion. Det är ingen garanti.
Men visst, jag kan inte säga att du har fel. Många kvinnor tror att de är älskade för den de är i sin relation bara för att vakna upp och lukta på kaffet när maken har stuckit med en yngre förmåga... Men du förenklar faktiskt också en hel del, Babianen. Allt i dina inlägg handlar om vikt och träning, i verkligheten är det inte allt som spelar roll i en relation. Man kan inte kontrollera sin make eller försäkra sig om kärlek i livet för att man praktiserar kalori-restriktion. Det är ingen garanti.
1) Det är klart att andra saker spelar roll som att sköta hemmet och erbjuda roligt sex.
2) Men att man är attraktiv är grunden för att det ska fungera. Jag ser män som väljer att stanna kvar med feta kvinnor efter barn men det är ingen glad grupp. Hur bra är det för barn att växa upp med en pappa som är olycklig?
3) Här är 2 kvinnor som är gifta med män som inte attraheras av deras mammakroppar,
[Serious] Fathers who lost attraction to their wife/girlfriend after baby, did you ever get it back?
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A little but about my appearance:
Before the baby, i was 5'5 120 pounds.
For months after the baby, I was very heavy. I gained 60 pounds with the baby. I ended up getting bad stretch marks on my stomach. I just recently lost the baby weight.
I'm currently 115 pounds. My stomach is gross. The stretch marks have faded to almost nothing but now I have loose skin and my stomach bulges and wrinkles really bad. He says he doesn't notice and it looks great, but it really doesn't. I think a tummy tuck is the only thing that would fix it.
But I have worked so hard to lose the weight, I look great besides the stomach, and he just doesn't seem interested.
Before the baby, i was 5'5 120 pounds.
For months after the baby, I was very heavy. I gained 60 pounds with the baby. I ended up getting bad stretch marks on my stomach. I just recently lost the baby weight.
I'm currently 115 pounds. My stomach is gross. The stretch marks have faded to almost nothing but now I have loose skin and my stomach bulges and wrinkles really bad. He says he doesn't notice and it looks great, but it really doesn't. I think a tummy tuck is the only thing that would fix it.
But I have worked so hard to lose the weight, I look great besides the stomach, and he just doesn't seem interested.
My [28 F] husband [31 M] doesn't seem to be attracted to me anymore after me having our twins... should I get in shape, or go more with body acceptance?
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I've got back into working out, but I'm much more tired now, and can't workout all the days that my husband does anymore. I'm about 35 pounds heavier than I was before I was pregnant, and have lost a decent amount of muscle so I look a lot fatter than I was before too. Looking in the mirror, I can see the shadow of that fat girl I used to be in junior high. I asked my husband if he wasn't attracted to me anymore, and he just says he is and that he still loves me and I'm still his wife, but I know he is saying it to not hurt my feelings.
We go on some walks as a family now at the park nearby, and I can see him casually glancing at other women who are running or playing volleyball, who used to have the body I had in college and before I had the twins. It hurts me a little, and I can't blame him because I barely another man who is more attractive than my husband while in my current state, there are plenty of women who look much more attractive than I do.
I talked about this with some of the other new mom's in our neighborhood, and some of them have gotten back to their shape they had before the baby within a year or two while some are in the same shape and most of them have put on more weight after having the baby. The few that got their shape back said that their sex lives were sky rocketing, and was much more spontaneous after having the kids because you can't plan around sleeping schedules as easily. The ones that were my shape or had gained a lot more weight had mixed sex lives, some very little, some just as much as before the baby.
The ones that did not get back their shape were telling me about the body confidence and body acceptance movement. I think its great to be confident in my body, but at the same time I am really conflicted as to getting in shape and looking attractive for my husband again. I want him to be insatiable when he is around me, but I don't know if I should change his view that this is who I am now, and he should learn to be attracted to how I look now. That's what we signed up for when we said our vows, right? Till death do us part? Through sickness and through health?
Should I talk to him about body image acceptance and growing to like the body I have now in hopes of improving our sex life or should I just focus more on my nutrition and working out to get back to where I was before I had the twins?
We go on some walks as a family now at the park nearby, and I can see him casually glancing at other women who are running or playing volleyball, who used to have the body I had in college and before I had the twins. It hurts me a little, and I can't blame him because I barely another man who is more attractive than my husband while in my current state, there are plenty of women who look much more attractive than I do.
I talked about this with some of the other new mom's in our neighborhood, and some of them have gotten back to their shape they had before the baby within a year or two while some are in the same shape and most of them have put on more weight after having the baby. The few that got their shape back said that their sex lives were sky rocketing, and was much more spontaneous after having the kids because you can't plan around sleeping schedules as easily. The ones that were my shape or had gained a lot more weight had mixed sex lives, some very little, some just as much as before the baby.
The ones that did not get back their shape were telling me about the body confidence and body acceptance movement. I think its great to be confident in my body, but at the same time I am really conflicted as to getting in shape and looking attractive for my husband again. I want him to be insatiable when he is around me, but I don't know if I should change his view that this is who I am now, and he should learn to be attracted to how I look now. That's what we signed up for when we said our vows, right? Till death do us part? Through sickness and through health?
Should I talk to him about body image acceptance and growing to like the body I have now in hopes of improving our sex life or should I just focus more on my nutrition and working out to get back to where I was before I had the twins?
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tl;dr: My husband isn't attracted to me as much as he used to be anymore, and I am not sure if I should teach him about body acceptance and loving my body for what it is now, changing what his attraction to fit my body now, or if I should focus much more on my working out and nutrition to get back to the shape I was before the twins.
4) Här är ett bra exempel på hur kvinnor ser ut efter 2 barn,
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Bikini-clad Imogen Thomas shows off her toned curves as she enlists daughters Ariana and Siera to model her new swimwear collection
Hur tänker ni yngre killar om att det här är eran framtid?
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